You don't have to do everything by yourself. It is ok to accept an offer of help.
This has been a hard lesson for me to learn in life. I grew up watching my grandmother do everything for herself. She would repair her car, build chicken houses, and lift things she shouldn't. I guess that is where I learned to be so very independent. It is how I have raided my own seven children.
I like that they think of me as a do-er. If they need anything, they turn to me. I either do it for them or get them started. My older daughter pointed out that I did so much for them; they failed to learn to do things for themselves. I suddenly realized that by doing everything on my own is not necessary and actually bad for me and those around me.
Welcoming the support and generosity from others strengthens relationships. People need to feel needed and to be able to express generosity. I get great pleasure from being the person that people turn to when they need to do something or want to know how to accomplish something. When you are too independent, you tend to push others away. Turning down offers of help can distance people, friends and colleagues alike.
I am trying to learn a new way. Practice what I preach you might say. My first step on this new path came just the other day…
As many know our truck and trailer were damaged in an auto accident. Two generous and kind people volunteered loaners to me. I was taken back by their kindness and generosity. It was touching to be on the receiving side of such helpfulness. I decided to just go with the energy of their generosity. It has kept our business going. Their passion and support of my hard work meant a great deal and was so encouraging to me at a time that it was so needed.
My second attempt at this is indiegogo.
When my friend heard me saying how much money I needed to purchase equipment for tearing down barns, he suggested I us a fundraising site. He knows me well and knew I didn't want to just accept donations. He suggested this site because it would allow me to give back to those who offer their support. The perks would allow a piece of the barns to be given back to investors, so that I am not just taking from people.
I could then make sure history would be passed on to those that had a hand in preserving it. Many cannot donate time to pull nails or take off roofing, but so many are passionate about this idea. At first I was very reserved about the idea. Over time I realized there are some things that I cannot do all by myself. I must ask for help.
If you would like to volunteer your time or invest in a barns deconstruction, it would be greatly appreciated. If you are not capable of doing either please continue to share your stories, visit our page, and sending your thoughts my way. That encouragement helps me get through those discouraging times and is greatly appreciated.